From Victim to Responsible
January 22, 2017 Speaker: Keith Ferguson Series: Hope Unbound: Breaking the Chains of Destructive Habits
Scripture: Genesis 3:1–3:13, Matthew 18:35, Psalm 139:23–139:24, Matthew 5:23–5:24
The Half-Truth of Our Victimization
Truth: _____________ Things Happen to Us
- Other People Wound Us
- Corrupt Systems Oppose Us
- The Fallen World Afflicts Us
Lie: Because Bad Things Happens to Us, We are _________ Responsible
Where This All Started: Genesis 3:1-13
Adam Blames Eve and God
Eve Blames the Serpent
God Holds Everyone Responsible
The Consequences of a Victim Identity
1- The problem is always_____________ people, not me.
2- The solution is always a change of ____________, not personal repentance.
3- Freedom and recovery are________________.
Moving Toward Responsibility
1- I must____________________ those who have hurt me.
2- I must take_____________________ of my sin and seek growth in God.
3- I must make___________________ to those I have hurt.
Growth Group Study Guide
(1) Why do you think it is impossible to experience freedom from our destructive habits as long as we see ourselves primarily as victims?
(2) What did you learn from the sermon this week? What did God show you through His Word?
Getting Into the Word:
(1) Read Galatians 6:7-9. Why would we be tempted to think that we can sow to our flesh and not reap any consequences? Why is this a problem for us? What does it mean to “sow to the Spirit”?
(2) Read Psalm 51:1-5. How can you tell from this text that King David is now taking ownership of his sin? What insight do we gain into ourselves when we realize that we “are guilty when we are born”?
(3) Read Psalm 51:6-19. In the rest of this psalm, David turns to the Lord for deliverance from his sin. What does he ask God to do for him? What does it mean that “the sacrifice pleasing to God is a broken spirit”?
2 Peter 1:3-4. These verses challenge the common mindset that we don’t have what it takes to live a holy life. What has God given us through Christ that takes away the excuse that godliness is impossible?
(1) In your personal life, how do you know when you have fallen into the victimization trap? What kinds of excuses do you tell yourself to justify the poor choices you are making?
(2) When you find yourself feeding your victim identity, what experiences do you typically replay in your mind? What steps do you need to take to be free from the pain that others have caused you?
(3) What destructive habit do you struggle to take ownership for (meaning you typically blame others for your choices)? When you honestly examine your own heart, why do you really do what you do?
(4) God commands us to seek reconciliation with those that we have wronged. What would it look like (practically) to genuinely apologize to those you have wronged in the past?